STABLE14-avoid-blocking-with-connhashtable-lock-in-reapconnections-20090307

STABLE14-avoid-blocking-with-connhashtable-lock-in-reapconnections-20090307

LICENSE BSD

instead of potentially blocking waiting for a call lock, assume if the call is
locked, the conn is still busy. also, don't even try to get the conn data lock
if we don't need to

(cherry picked from commit 581fd18bd9c3fe8e07169c60a7cde9e72e8af89c)